This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, feminism, and industry news here every week.

Monday 9 December – Sunday 15 December

News Roundup:

Weinstein’s Accusers Near a $25 Million Settlement. He Pays the Victims Zero. The deal would not require that he admit any wrongdoing or pay anything himself to the more than 30 victims who have accused him of offenses ranging from sexual harassment to rape. [The New York Times]

In this week’s Dear Polly, ‘I’ve Never Had Sex, and I Feel Like I Never Will’ [The Cut]

French auteur Céline Sciamma and actresses Adèle Haenel and Noémie Merland speak about the film ‘Portrait of a Lady on Fire’. A Lesbian Movie Masterpiece That Explodes the Male Gaze -– “The male gaze is the convention, but it’s a fake neutral. And we are all raised in it,” she adds. “You can be a female and not deconstruct it at all, and be part of the group and objectify and reproduce the same images. But everybody is able to deconstruct it. Men can stop using the male gaze, women can go on using the male gaze; it’s a political choice. It’s not about psychology or sensitivity.” [The Daily Beast]

Some stats have suggested that between 15 and 30% of millennial men in the US could be classified as incels: The Story of the Incel is the Story of the 2010s. So, what do the next ten years hold for incels? And how do we prevent them from becoming even more radicalised? [VICE]

How Sex Workers Helped Write a Bill to Study the Effects of SESTA/FOSTA [Rolling Stone]

Planned Parenthood to open reproductive health centers at 50 Los Angeles high schools. The program  will offer a full range of birth control options, testing and treatment for STIs, and pregnancy counseling, but not abortion, for an estimated 75,000 teens.The program will also train hundreds of teens to be “peer advocates” to help provide information about safe sex and relationships. [Washington Post] 

This Week’s Lust News:

Guest Writer: A Strong Relationship and Great Sex in Trying Times by Dr Ari Tuckman [The Erika Lust Blog] 

xoxo

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I thought about it today. It’s been four years since anyone has touched me. The last time was my ex and it was us being intimate one more time before breaking up. That was in March 2014, how terrible is that? I hate Tinder, it’s hard for me to get intimate and let myself go, I do not like one night stands… But I can’t do it anymore, I need to be touched. I decided that I could not continue like this when I saw myself approaching a guy creepily in the subway at rush hour just to feel his body. For a year now, I have been going to this spa every time I can afford it. There’s this masseur working there and he is tall, tattooed, strong but sweet and affectionate, tender and kind. His touch fills me with heat, during those 60 minutes I feel like I am in another world. I think I am going crazy because I want his touch so much. I’m obsessing over him like the character in I LOVE DICK. I don’t know what to do! 

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Hungry For Your Touch is about the power of human connection and physical touch. But what does an absence of touch do to a person? Touching each other is what keeps us connected and peaceful, it is essentially what makes us human. This sensual massage porn directed by yours truly is a romantic, dream-like fantasy of a woman who after going through a break-up, is longing for somebody to touch her, to love her and to make her feel connected to herself and the world around her. 

*all pictures in this post are by Adriana Eskenazi

On XConfessions, people from all over the world share their sexual stories and fantasies. Every month I pick two and turn them into cinematic short films. Still not a member of XConfessions? Register now! Or share your sexual fantasy, and it might become a short film

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Hope (Andi James), Chris (Marcus London) and Liam (Brandon Wilde) are a regular, loving family supporting each other through all the ups and downs in life. While father Chris is struggling with his self-image as an ageing actor, son Liam is head over heals in love with his new boyfriend Daniel (Dante Colle). He invites him to spend the summer with him and his family at their home in New Hampshire. What could have been the perfect opportunity for creating lasting memories and building family bonds, soon turns into a rollercoaster of emotions for the young couple when Daniel finds himself questioning his sexuality.

When one night a discussion between Liam and Daniel escalates, Liam decides to spend the night at a friend’s house to give his lover some space and time to think. Frustrated and confused, Daniel turns to Liam’s mother Hope for advice. Even though Hope loves her husband with all her heart, she has to admit to herself that she has developed an unexpected attraction for her son’s boyfriend that is clearly mutual.

Is the crisis that’s unfolding inevitable, or can they find a way to maintain the family’s integrity?

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Nica Noelle’s new film All About Hope takes us on a journey to make us think about love, desire & trust. Shot in idillic New Hampshire, this new LustCinema original film brings the spotlight to suburban, family life. Starring Andi James as mother Hope, husband and father Chris played by Marcus London, Brandon Wilde as son Liam and Dante Colle as Liam’s new boyfriend, this film brings you a variety of heterosexual and gay sex scenes, exploring the intersection between sex and emotional dramas. 

Welcome to LustCinema, the porn studio for lovers of cinema and sex. LustCinema offers plot driven original series and feature films by female directors for those who seek relatable storylines with realistic situations of sex, cinematic quality and sex positivity. In addition to licensing innovative content from adult filmmakers who show and capture the whole feeling of sex – the passion and the pleasure. Stream or download our content from any device, without nasty pop-ups or advertising. If you are looking for pornography where everyone’s pleasure is equally important, LustCinema is your place. You put the screen and we add the lust.

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The Lust Ed is a fun, free, explicit video series for people craving expert advice on sex, pleasure, kinks & sexual health. Presented by The Erika Lust Blog, all installments of this video series will be available exclusively on this blog.

Use Code SEXEDBDSM for a 30% discount on all BDSM movies in the store!

About The Experts

Mistress Velvet is Chicago’s premier African dominatrix.Mistress Velvet often makes her cis, white subs read and write essays about black feminist theory and sees BDSM as a form of therapy for both her clients and herself. Besides being a sex worker, Mistress V is an activist and sex educator. 

On XConfessions, people from all over the world share their sexual stories and fantasies. Every month I pick two and turn them into cinematic short films. Still not a member of XConfessions? Register now! Or share your sexual fantasy, and it might become a short film

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This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, feminism, and industry news here every week.

Monday 16 December – Sunday 22 December, 2019

News Roundup:

The Miseducation of the American Boy – “the definition of masculinity seems to be contracting. When asked what traits society values mot in boys, only 2 percent of male respondents in the survey said honesty and morality” [The Atlantic]

From Fifty Shades of Grey and sex toys becoming more popular, to queer sex and the expansion of the way people can self identify – How Sex Changed During the 2010s [Uproxx]

We are reclaiming a word that never really applied to us in the first place, but we are here and we are aroused – The Year Women Got ‘Horny’. [The New York Times]

In just ten years identifying as a feminist has changed a lot, the label started the decade unfashionable and by 2019 it’s assumed that all women are feminists just by existing – The Strange Decade in Online Feminism [VICE]

This decade re-defined and expanded what it means to be trans, 10 ways the 2010s changed how we think about being transgender [Daily Dot]

Can Crisis Pregnancy Centers Teach Sex Ed? [Bustle] 

This Week’s Lust News:

The Lust Ed: BDSM Therapy & Impact Play with Mistress Velvet [The Erika Lust Blog] 

New Release: All About Hope – a LustCinema Original Film [The Erika Lust Blog] 

New Release: Hungry For Your Touch on XConfessions [The Erika Lust Blog] 

xoxo

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We’re coming to the end of 2019 and what a year it has been. I celebrated 15 years of Erika Lust; released my first virtual reality film; took The Lust Tour on the road to more countries; released more sex documentaries; launched a new US studio… plus much, much more! Thank you to every one who continues to support me on this journey and gets involved with the Lust mission. In 2020 I want to continue spreading the joy of sex positivity through beautiful adult cinema and showing the world that everybody’s pleasure is equally important.  

But first, here’s a Lust Year in Review…

I shot and premiered my first ever VR film; 360° of Lust

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2019 has been very exciting, especially since I released my first virtual reality film, '360º of Lust'. It was amazing to feel all the energy and positive reactions from everyone who put on a headset, in London, New York, Barcelona and all around the world. Now you can be part of the experience by visiting XConfessions(dot)com/film/360-of-lust⁠ ⁠ Which city would you like The Lust Experience to go next?⁠ ⁠ ⁠ 360º of Lust- ft @kali.sudhra @themickeymod @katanax_official @julia_roca_x⁠ Special thanks to @ohrangutang @healthishell @fullerfigurefullerbust @vivalavahn @eladarling @weareanagram @mirikane @abaixadors10 @thegrouchoclub⁠ ⁠ #jointhelustexperience #xconfessions #360oflust

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360º of Lust is fully immersive, cinematic VR and the ultimate voyeur’s fantasy – every sound, moan and touch will follow you on your journey around the space. Kali, Katana, Julia and Mickey take you to a  360º emotive virtual world, and it is free for everyone to watch!

We made a lot of noise with our masturbation month campaign in May

Sadly, talking about masturbation for women is still a huge taboo. With my sex documentary Female Pleasure Circle, I wanted to break the taboo around female masturbation once and for all. Masturbation is self-care and there is absolutely nothing shameful about it. Period.

I collaborated with amazing people for Masturbation Month. I interviewed the infamous Dr. Betty Dodson who has been one of the principal voices for women’s sexual pleasure and health for over three decades. I also produced several explicit videos with experts from around the world for The Lust Ed Video Series about topics such as partnered masturbation, masturbation & disability, squirting and much more!

I celebrated senior sex with Soul Sex with John & Annie 

Soul Sex with John and Annie was a very special project for me. Not only did I get to work with John & Annie who are two of the most inspiring people I have ever met, I got to shoot my first ever movie about sex in later-life. After this experience, I can promise you that it won’t be the last. The entire creative process of this movie was such a rewarding experience and I learned SO much I didn’t know before. I think it is so important that we start shifting our view on senior sex. We need to stop ignoring seniors and their desires and start representing them in porn and sex education. 
I’m so grateful to everyone for their response to this movie, it turned out I wasn’t the only one it made an impression on! You can read what the press said about it here:

Senior Sex is the Last Frontier in Porn [VICE]

What Sex is Really Like After 70, According to XConfessions’ New Sex Documentary [Allure]

Why These Seniors Decided to Start Making Porn in Their Seventies [MEL]

And we were lucky to have the wonderful Joan Price guest writing for the blog on Sexually Invisible Seniors and How We Can Increase Sexual Pleasure in Later Age.  
Relaunching LustCinema as a new US Studio and shooting my first feature length film, The Intern

I re-launched LustCinema as a new US based studio for lovers of cinema and sex. Alongside other female directors we are releasing Original feature length films and series, which launched with my first feature film The Intern. 
I was selected as one of BBC’s 100 most influential women of 2019

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We're kicking off #womancrushwednesday with a woman we want to *be* – @erikalust . • Erika is one of our #100women and a leading erotic film director. Porn is a format traditionally made by men, for men, about men – meaning it's not always the most realistic. • Now Erika is on a mission to make sure female sexuality is better represented everywhere – and that young men are educated about sex the right way. 🦸‍♀️

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This was such a big moment for me, thank you so much to BBC 100 Women for selecting me and inviting me to speak at their conference on the future of pornography. I had such an amazing time, you can see a video of my Q&A at the conference here.

Mums Make Porn aired on Channel 4

I took part in the Channel 4 series Mums Make Porn, helping five mums from the UK to make their first adult film! 

The three part documentary series showed the reality of dealing with pornography for the “average” mum in the UK. It followed five mums, unsatisfied with the content that their kids could be seeing online (with just 2 clicks), as they set out to make their own film with the help of industry experts. The series shone light on the issue and the absolute need to speak to your children about pornography from an ever increasingly younger age.  
Fighting Online Censorship and Biased Banning 

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The threat of silencing and censoring of women online will have far-reaching and harmful repercussions on how women fully exercise their right to participate in offline, public life. We must continue to expose and defy the #biasedbanning from monopolistic private tech companies in order to make a change.

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2019 wasn’t all fun and games. Online censorship, shadow-banning and biased banning have hit sex workers, creators of adult content and women and marginalised groups hard this past year.

You can read what I wrote about it for USA Today here; How Instagram censors could affect the lives of everyday women.
I Launched The Lust Ed Video Series – Because We Need Explicit Sex Education For Adults 

The Lust Ed is a fun, free, explicit video series for people crying expert advice on sex ed, pleasure, kinks, & sexual health . One of the most popular videos on the series so far is Kali Sudhra’s Explicit Squirting Guide. 

Free adult sex education videos from porn director Erika Lust [Cosmopolitan]

Breaking Taboos: Shedding Light On Pregnancy Sex 

I released Pregnancy Sex Doc featuring adult performer Tiffany Doll & her husband Bruno when Tiffany was 7 months pregnant. I had wanted to address this topic for a long time to question and dismantle the dichotomy society creates between sex and motherhood.

The sex documentary was released alongside a content series by women’s health specialist guest writers on my blog covering everything from respectful maternity care to practicing BDSM whilst pregnant.  

Empowering NSFW Documentary Proves That Women Still Want Good Sex Whilst Pregnant [Parents]
Top 5 films on XConfessions of 2019

The year 2019 felt like one massive, sexy screen from which we couldn’t turn away. Last but not least, here are the XConfessions films that were the biggest hits of 2019…

Leading the pack is Female Pleasure Circle, my explicit documentary film about female masturbation which over 103,000 subscribers tuned into.

In second place is Michelle Flynn’s Wanderlust featuring Oli and Verde, a real life couple touring and fucking around Australia in a camper van.

Coming up next is Dirty Laundry, my remake of the laundromat liaisons trope with fantastic performances by Viktoria Vaar and Romeo.

BDSM lovers pushed Hunter S. Johnson’s Hunger – Who’s in Charge into fourth place with over 88,000 viewers, proving that a movie about a frustrated employee who is having a toxic and twisted affair with his boss’s wife is something many people want to watch.

Rounding out the top 5 most watched XConfessions movies is Pregnancy Sex Doc, starring Tiffany Doll and her husband Bruno sharing some very intimate moments of their pregnancy.

❤️

Thanks to everyone for such a wonderful 2019! 

Lust & kisses, Erika Lust x

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I love laying in bed with my better half spending the entire night watching horror movies and getting our fingers greasy with weirdly flavoured crisps.
Well, sometimes (or actually MANY TIMES), I end up imagining how that movie would look like if turned into a porn. Oh, sweet Horrorgasm!
Might be my lover’s knees touching my tight, or his hand caressing my shoulder, or it might simply be that full breast bouncing away from a murderer in a random b-graded horror movie but my imagination runs wild even before the girl gets miserably slashed.
Wouldn’t it be extremely erotic if the killer, instead of pulling out his big, deadly knife, would pull out his big, deadly cock? And wouldn’t it be so hot if the girl, instead of screaming of fear, would scream of pleasure?
Basically what I am saying is, can John Carpenter direct a movie for XConfessions please?

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Guest directed by Giulia Mucci, The Fog is a vintage horror porn movie starring Katana, Master Aaron and the director herself. The graveyard sex scene was shot entirely in super8 which makes it look extra sexy and extra spooky! Check it out on XConfessions.
 

*all pictures in this post are by Jo Fetto

On XConfessions, people from all over the world share their sexual stories and fantasies. Every month I pick two and turn them into cinematic short films. Still not a member of XConfessions? Register now! Or share your sexual fantasy, and it might become a short film

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This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, feminism, and industry news here every week.

Monday 30 December 2019 – Monday 6 January 2020

News Roundup:

Ask a Sex Therapist: How Do I Set Boundaries for Rough Sex With My Partner? [Allure]

Trump trend: LGBTQ mentions quietly axed from discrimination guidelines. Trump administration has quietly removed mentions of “sexual orientation” and “gender identity” from executive branch guidelines on discrimination. [NBC News]

Girls Do Porn Has to Pay Millions in Damages For Coercing Women into Porn – $12.7 million to 22 women [VICE] 

Nude Models Are Selling NSFW Photos to Raise Money for Australian Fire Relief [Rolling Stone]

“I didn’t have the confidence to do this in my 20s,” says Lucy. “Whereas in my 40s I no longer care about what anyone thinks of me. I’m comfortable with my filthy mind.” – ‘You don’t have to sign off at midlife’: the joy of sex when you have an empty nest  [The Guardian]

Parents should start teaching sex ed while their children are in diapers, experts say – consent begins with hugs, high fives and tickles. [Business Insider]

This Week’s Lust News:

New Release: The Fog on XConfessions [The Erika Lust Blog] 

xoxo

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This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, feminism, and industry news here every week.

Monday 6 January – Sunday 12 January, 2020

News Roundup:

“Absent guidance from trusted adults, boys look to the media as a default sex educator, where they are bombarded by images of female sexual availability and male sexual entitlement.” – Will We Ever Figure Out How to Talk to Boys About Sex? [The New York Times]

Greta Gerwig on fighting to make ‘Little Women’: “I was not on anybody’s list to direct this film” [Screen Daily]

No dolls, robots, or anatomically correct devices – The Rules  Only Sex Tech Companies Have to Follow at CES [The Verge] 

Doctors are doing unnecessary gynaecological tests on teens – according to a study published in JAMA Internal Medicine the Pap test was performed unnecessarily on 1.6 million girls and women between 2011 and 2017. [Vox]

An excerpt from Gigi Engle’s upcoming book All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life – I Teach People How to Sext, and These Are the Best Tips I Know [Men’s Health]

This Week’s Lust News:

New Release: Thrilling lesbian psychological drama Girl Friday [LustCinema] 

xoxo

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Florence and Reed, the ladies behind the Youtube channel ComeCurious, are back on XConfessions! After the success of Tips and Tricks for Suckin’ Dicks, they’re here to guide Kenneth Play and Blake Wilde through the perfect cunnilingus session. If you have questions about how to give body trembling oral sex, then sit back and take notes. To tease or not to tease, to suck or not to suck… don’t worry, Florence and Reed are here with all of the Tips and Tricks for Suckin’ Clits. 

Watch the experts and then go forth and practice!

*all pictures in this post are by Nicol Vizioli 

On XConfessions, people from all over the world share their sexual stories and fantasies. Every month I pick two and turn them into cinematic short films. Still not a member of XConfessions? Register now! Or share your sexual fantasy, and it might become a short film

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This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, feminism, and industry news here every week.

Monday 13 January – Sunday 19 January, 2020

News Roundup:

Deepfake Porn Harms Adult Performers, Too – their bodies are being weaponised for online harassment [Wired]

What Does An Orgasm Feel Like? A Neuroscientist Explains [Glamour]

There’s a lot of stigma surrounding what people like during sex, 8 People Explain What They Wish People Knew About Their Kinks and Fetishes [Refinery29] 

The Tech Innovator Fighting to Give Women Better Orgasms: ‘It’s About Helping People Understand Themselves‘. Lora DiCarlo, the award-winning sex-toy inventor speaks about fighting for her place in the male dominated tech world. [The Daily Beast]

“Orgasm inequality thrives on flawed beliefs about female anatomy and pleasure” – Battling The Clit Crisis [Playboy]

Sex ed in the #MeToo era: Middle schools enter a new era in sex ed – teaching 13-year-olds about consent [The Washington Post]

This Week’s Lust News:

New Release: Tips and Tricks for Lickin’ Clits on XConfessions [The Erika Lust Blog] 

xoxo

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XConfessions Volume 21 is here! Are you ready?  

This volume includes six films from six directors and shows a whole range of erotica from horror to romance, and documentary to fantasy. As always each movie is a sensual experience that pushes against the rules of adult cinema and celebrates the diversity of human desire. 

Every single short film was inspired by one of the sexual stories you sent anonymously to XConfessions. This volume is extra special because every film was made by a guest director, so thanks to you for providing us with all of the inspiration we need and thanks to my beautiful guest directors for these amazing films. Prepare yourself for this volume because things are heating up! 

If you go to The Erika Lust Store you can either purchase each movie separately or stream or download the entire collection in one single download. 

Use Code 30XC21 and get 30% off your purchase!

Curated by award-winning director and producer Erika Lust, The Store is the number one market place for independent adult cinema.

This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, feminism, and industry news here every week.

Monday 20 January – Sunday 26 January, 2020

News Roundup:

Women, Burdened With Unpaid Labor, Bear Brunt of Global Inequality. On average, women globally spend 4.5 hours of their day on unpaid work while men spend about half that time [The New York Times]

My curious journey into the world of ASMR erotica [Wired]

How a new generation of artists is exploring sexuality  [i-D] 

Sex workers predicted this a long time ago, but now a sex-worker lefd research initiative has confirmed that SESTA-FOSTA is ‘detrimental’ to sex workers’ safety, study confirms [The Daily Beast]

 What your sexual fantasies say about your wellbeing [Mic]

Tweet of the Week:

Margot Robbie and Jurnee Smollett speak about the “new normal” of having more female filmmakers and more women on set behind the camera…  

.@MargotRobbie and @jurneesmollett talk the "new normal" of having more women on set and behind the scenes in the entertainment industry. pic.twitter.com/M9VUSbHCC9

— InStyle (@InStyle) January 24, 2020

From romantic communication to sexual harassment – The Questions Sex-Ed Students Always Ask [The Atlantic]

This Week’s Lust News:

New Release: Prepare to be aroused, XConfessions Volume 21 is here! [The Erika Lust Blog] 

xoxo

It’s almost the end of Januhairy! 

You may have heard of Movember, a month long campaign that has men worldwide sporting moustaches to raise money for testicular cancer, but have you heard of the body positive movement Januhairy? 

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@peterdevito ~ “Why does society still shame women for having body hair? If a woman has armpit hair, she's apparently "disgusting", "unkept" or has "bad hygiene", but if a man has armpit hair, no one says anything because "he's a man"…really? That's the only reasoning we need? If you leave a comment about your opinion, please also leave your reasoning.” ⠀ Model: @loveaprilkae #januhairy #bodyhair #acceptance #bodyhairmovement #thenaturalrevolution #happyandhairy #ownyourtruth

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Hmmm… no, what is it?  

The campaign encourages women to grow out their natural body hair and ditch the razors for a month. The idea of starting the year with a month long celebration of female bodies in all their hairy glory sounds pretty perfect to me. 

Januhairy started in 2018 when Laura Jackson, a graduate from Exeter University in the UK, started the campaign to empower women to make their own choices about body hair, free from the pressures of societal expectations. Now, all across social media women are bearing their beautiful hair and sharing their personal experiences on the @Januhairy Instagram account.

OK, so what? 

Why is it important you ask?! Well, while men’s body hair is often viewed as natural and even sexy, a hairy woman is made to feel completely undesirable. Young women grow up believing that they must shave, wax, pluck, laser or epilate every little hair that appears on our body.

It’s now predicted that women spend £8,500 and eight weeks of their lives removing body hair! 

What if I want to get rid of my hair?  

The aim of Januhairy is to empower all women to feel comfortable in their skin, whether you are hairy or not! It’s about giving women a choice to do what they want to do with their body.  

Plus, it’s really important to remember that it’s not always a choice for women to grow their hair – for some women it’s uncomfortable, painful or difficult to grow their hair. It’s also important to remember that it’s not just leg, pubic and underarm hair – a lot of women have hair that grows on other parts of their body which are deemed “less acceptable”.

At the end of the day we must all remember that it is a choice and whatever anyone decides to do with their body hair they must feel accepted. 

So, support all of the women around you and spread the word about Januhairy! 

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The wonderful @queen_esie shares her hairy experience with us: “I've had chest hair since I was 11. I always felt like I was keeping a secret, always having to hide it and lift up my shirt when it was too low exposing my chest. It became a burden to me and I would cry often about the fact that I was hairy. I would shave, wax, everything necessary to remove it but it scarred my skin, gave me ingrown hair and the hairs came back stronger. Over time through prayer, I learned to accept myself as I am and understand that there was nothing wrong with me but it was societal beauty standards put on us at a young age that made sure for us women to hate ourselves so they could benefit off of us by making billions in the beauty industry. As an artist, I decided to create a project called "Lavender" in the summer of 2019. The project was about female body hair and femininity. I made a lavender coloured dress, wore it and took pictures, making sure my chest hair was visible and posted these pictures on Instagram. It took me almost over ten years to finally I accepted myself as the beautiful woman that I am, made a decision the love myself and want to inspire others to do the same.” #januhairy

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Stunning solo release #2 featuring our co-founder Ruby: “My relationship with my body hair is one that is ever changing and growing (pun intended). As someone with a disability, keeping on top of a hair removal regime was rigorous and exhausting. However, it never even occurred to me until a few years ago that letting my body hair grow was even an option! In 2018 I developed a cerebrospinal fluid leak which caused agonising pain every time I sat/stood. Despite this, I continued to use the little energy I had to ensure I was always hairless, even though I was barely leaving my bedroom. Since meeting Laura – and our Januhairy co-founder – the option of being open to growing my body hair has changed my life! Not only do I have more time in the shower, but I have grown to love and accept my whole body in a way that I didn’t know I could. ALL bodies are beautiful, valid and worthy.” @chr0nicallycute @xtheodoreclarkex . . . @kathrynpridgeon . . . White underwear set by @neonmoonco #januhairy

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We are SO excited to announce our partnership with the ICONIC hairy queen @crystal.will.see.you.now from RuPaul’s Drag Race UK Season 1. Crystal says, “Gender is a social construct, and for me drag is all about highlighting that – poking holes in the patriarchy and shining a light on the ridiculousness of gender norms. I don’t do drag to impersonate a woman, I do it to expose the fragility of masculinity. Keeping my body hair lets people know that I’m consciously rejecting my ‘masculinity’ in favour of something else… All that aside – lots of women don’t shave, and lots of men do – you should do whatever makes you happy!” . . . Crystal, will be doing a JANUHAIRY TAKEOVER next week, bringing a new perspective on body hair and gender stereotypes! . . . With respect to her #januhairy takeover, Crystal says…“As a cis man, it’s not my place to tell women what to do with their bodies. But, I think we can all benefit from having a think about what we do for ourselves, and what we do because society tells us to. That’s definitely what my drag is all about!” We CANNOT WAIT for this takeover! So keep your eyes peeled for hairy updates! #rupaulsdragrace #dragqueen #januhairy

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“Pyörii niinku puolukka pillussa” vanha suomalainen sanonta kuvaa tänään niitä, jotka ei malta pysyä paikoillaan ja on aina tekemässä liian montaa asiaa samaan aikaan. Maanantaista perjantaihin oon sidottu normeihin, uskomuksiin, työhön ja kaavoihin. Haluaisin päästää eläimen itsessäni vapaaksi ja seurata mihin puolukat mua vie. 

There is an old Finnish saying: “Pyörii niinku puolukka pillussa” (spinning around like a lingonberry in a vagina). The origin of it remains a mystery. Nowadays the saying is connected to the behaviour of people like me: people who cannot stay still and who are always doing too many things at the same time. I feel tied and tired with all the norms, beliefs, patterns and work. From Monday to Friday I’m performing the same ritual. I wish I could just let the primal animal in me free and explore where the berries Tuohimarja lead me.

– by Tuohimarja

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I’m happy to welcome back my Finnish neighbours, Lynx Ymir & Pris Juno, with the latest release on XConfessions CATBERRY JUICE. The film captures Lynx enjoying a day off from work at home, doing daily things whilst having fun and trying not to let external influences be too distracting.

And wow! What an original short film and a brilliant performance by Lynx which beautifully and expertly captures the restlessness of “Pyörii niinku puolukka pillussa”. Lynx & Pris also hope to use the film to question established beliefs of how individuals should behave and how certain objects should be used (you’ll know what they mean once you’ve watched the film )

Anyway, it’s beautiful and it’s completely unique. Go check it out on XConfessions now and let me know what you think!

*all photos in this post are by Tuisku Lehto

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Recently divorced Lauren (Vera King) is held captive by former stepson Tommy (Seth Gamble) in her bedroom after he commits a mysterious crime. Still recovering from her messy divorce, Lauren is torn between wanting to help the troubled young man and a stubborn sense of duty to the ex-husband who left her for another woman. With no one to talk to but each other, Lauren and Tommy develop a strange intimacy – but Lauren starts to unravel after Tommy witnesses her emotionally-triggering exchange with current boyfriend Mark (Marcus London).

What would you do if you fell for your captor? 

Watch the trailer:

Directed by Nica Noelle and starring some of porn’s most popular performers, WANTED is a gripping thriller that will keep you on the edge of your seat. Are you ready? 

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This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, feminism, and industry news here every week.

Monday 27 January – Sunday 2 February, 2020

News Roundup:

How Super Bowl sex trafficking myths hurt actual sex workers. Despite evidence that major sporting events do not actually cause sex trafficking, law enforcement continues to act on the Super Bowl sex trafficking narrative. There is however evidence that the flawed, simplistic and misleading myths that they pedal actually make it more difficult for trafficking victims to get help. [Mic]

Filmmaker Numa Perrier’s speaks about her directorial debut which tells a semi-autobiographical story of an early internet cam girl: Sex Work as Seen Through the Lens of Director Numa Perrier’s Jezebel [Jezebel]

Sex Worker Killed After Paroled Murderer Allowed to Satisfy ‘Sexual Needs’ [VICE] 

Prohibitions are always enforced more heavily upon the more disadvantaged and upon minorities – How the War on Sex Work Crushes Underprivileged Women [reason]

A new report from Oxfam, has found that the Work Women Don’t Get Paid For Is Worth At Least $10.8 Trillion [Huff Post]

Porn survey reveals extent of UK teenagers’ viewing habits – a report by the BBFC conducted in the UK found that teens are turning to porn as an educational tool because of failings in school sex ed (no surprise there) and that while 75% of parents did not believe their children would have watched pornography, the majority of these parents’ children told the researchers that they had actually viewed adult films. [The Guardian]

This Week’s Lust News:

New Release: WANTED on LustCinema [The Erika Lust Blog] 

New Release: CATBERRY JUICE on XConfessions [The Erika Lust Blog] 

Erika Says: In Support of Januhairy [The Erika Lust Blog] 

xoxo

This Week’s Guide: Safe & Responsible Choking with a Partner

Are you interested in choking during sex? Perhaps you’ve tried choking in the past or you’ve been asked to choke someone else. Maybe you’ve read a lot about choking in the news recently and you’re terrified at the thought of it. Or maybe you’re one of the many people who have experienced someone trying to choke you during sex without asking for your consent first.  

Or, of course, you could be one of the millions of people who have seen choking in pornography. In a lot of the stereotypical mainstream pornography on the tube sites, choking is presented as a very common fantasy and a normal part of sex. It’s often shown as something that is done on autopilot with no discussion of consent or boundaries beforehand. And it’s almost always shown as something a man does to a woman, we very rarely see it in reverse. Like anything to do with sex, you absolutely can not and should not try to learn about choking from porn.

Choking is a kink, it is not a regular low-risk activity – it can be inherently life threatening if it’s not done properly. It always requires discussion beforehand, consent, and appropriate safety measures. Choking is not something you should ever presume someone likes without speaking to them first. It can be very dangerous so you must do your research, speak to your partner about it and be very careful.

Whatever your thoughts on choking, the fact is that a lot of people are very interested in it and it’s now a pretty common kink. Some people who like choking – or erotic asphyxiation – say it can heighten sexual arousal and make orgasms more intense. Other people like it for a huge variety of other reasons. So with this in mind, I want to give you some tips on how to use choking during sex responsibly and safely.

This guide will focus on partnered choking and not solo auto-asphyxiation. Please remember that self administered choking is a more dangerous practice and comes with it’s own unique risks and dangers. 

Step 1. Do your research

Depending on where you live you may be able to visit your local sex shop to attend a workshop and receive proper instructions on how to choke someone safely. Because of the potential dangers, I really recommend speaking to a professional or someone who is experienced in erotic asphyxiation before attempting any activity – they can help you learn the proper anatomy, answer questions and direct you to additional resources. 

If these facilities are not available to you, you must do your own research at home. Take time to learn about the anatomy of the neck, head and chest. This will help you better understand the limits of pressure and force. Learning the anatomy will also highlight the importance of proper hand placement, or where to place restraints like belts or ties.

Step 2. Boundaries and Expectations

Before any choking takes place, everyone involved must establish boundaries. This discussion should happen well before you are in the heat of the moment and should cover everyone’s expectations aswell as the timing and the intensity of the choking. Be sure to ask yourself (or your partner) these questions before you start:

• Do you want to be choked during penetration, during foreplay or closer to climax?
• How intense do you want it to be?
• What are you looking to experience from this?
• What is it about choking that turns you on?

Everyone should know all of the details before you start. And of course consent should still be given at each stage of play, even after these conversations.

Step 3. Safe word gesture 

This is very, very important! As with every type of BDSM activity you should have a safe word, but due to the nature of choking it is also recommended that you choose a safe word gesture. This could be anything from holding an object and dropping it when you’d like to stop, or tapping three times on your partner’s hand, or clicking your fingers.

Side note: Do not practice choking or any breath control activity if you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol. You must both be in a clear headspace and able to consent at every stage. 
Step 4. Learn how to touch the neck 

It’s very important that when you start using choking with a partner that you gently press on either side of the oesophagus and figure out the pressure that works for them. Pressing on the outside of the throat cuts off air and blood to the brain from two of the main arteries and can lead to the euphoric symptoms of choking. Do not ever push directly on the front of their neck as this can be very dangerous. 

Step 5. Pay attention to your partner

Your partner should be able to answer you if you ask them a question. If they can’t answer you, stop doing what you’re doing immediately. You should never choke someone so hard that they can’t vocally respond. Make sure you are regularly checking in to get feedback on the pressure that you are applying and where your hands are placed.  
Step 6. Aftercare!

Aftercare is key to every healthy sexual experience. It means that you should be there to support the physical come-down of sex. Aftercare looks different to everyone – maybe it’s cuddling under the duvet, stroking each other’s bodies, or eating some nice food together. Whatever it is be sure to use this time to discuss the sex and the choking, speak about what you liked and what you can adjust for next time to experience even more pleasure!

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Dion de Rossi is a feminist porn performer, sex and intimacy coach, bodyworker, educator and sex witch. They have over seven years experience in the adult industry and are now working to guide and encourage others to become their most sexually empowered selves.